Parental Alienation, Interaction on X (formerly Twitter)

 

Stu @stuart268

In X (former Twitter) Stu @stuart 268 posted this image

I wrote as a response:  

Most parents (men and women, mothers and fathers) do not love their children. That is fact, science, rejected in a world which do not tolerate truth. Sad, but necessary.

Then, Jeanne @MyClickInTime wrote: It is not wise to speak without researching, and posted this image

My father was a malignant narcissist, a psychopath. He blamed me from the beginning (when I was a toddler) for everything that was wrong in his life, even if bad things happened to him years (decades) before I was born. While still a child, he blamed me for everything that was wrong in the world, for the entire history of humanity. He tortured me, psychologically.

I was born neurodivergent, I cannot see with my left eye. I have suffered from ADHD, never diagnosed. My mother did not look after me, I was a very bad student, although many people considered me intelligent; I was a “brilliant underachiever”. I needed a special education, a private tutor. All I got was violence and inattention.

Because of this, I developed a very bad mental pathology, a personality disorder, borderline (BPD).

My belief that most parents (women and men, mothers and fathers) do not love their children does not arise from my experience. I have read most of Erich Fromm’s books. In To Have Or To Be, Fromm quotes Lloyd de Mause.

Taken from Wikipedia:

Beginning in the 1970s, De Mause began conceiving of psychohistory, a field of study of the psychological motivations of historical events, and their associated patterns of behavior. It seeks to understand the emotional origin of the social and political behavior of groups and nations—past and present—by analyzing events in childhood and the family, especially child abuse.

In this paragraph of Erich Fromm’s book “To Have Or To Be”, Fromm quotes Lloyd de Mause:

 

Being 24 years old (a long time ago, I am 62 years old) I decided that I would marry, but would not have children. I realized that I did not want a family, and I would not allow myself to hurt children, ever.

A very big trouble is that most people cannot accept truth. Because of this, myths like the love of parents are accepted and most parents continue the chain of destructiveness.

I was the only son of four children. My tween sister, Monica, married a man from USA, who seems to be a malignant narcissist, just like our father. A younger sister (born on July 1968, just turned 58) married an immoral man and did not attend her eldest daughter, who is 31 and suffers from obesity. My youngest sister died 20 years ago, our father ruined her and after that attacked her, sexually; he tried to rape her.

I have overcome that very bad personality disorder, borderline [BPD]. Just now.

I realize that Jean has suffered. I am sorry about that. The aim of therapies is to heal, of course. In psychoanalysis, the analyst (therapist) and their client’s aim is to find truth. When that is achieved, healing has been achieved.

I believe I have achieved that. I wish Jean, Stuart, and everyone who has suffered to heal.

We must not hide from truth.